It’s a warm an fuzzy feeling, but most importantly a privilege and honour to be a person that people feel comfortable enough reaching out to for help or when they need a listening ear. I’ve been self-absorbed for a long time and forgot what it feels to be able to help, or at least to be there for others.
I can go on forever about how it feels to help others, so I will focus on one aspect: The privilege of having people open up to me. I feel privileged because I know how hard it is to open up to others and to be vulnerable. Will they understand? Will they judge? Will they get annoyed if you share your problems with them? So many questions you won’t know the answer to until you take the risk to open up.
A few months ago I wrote about how I felt like I don’t fit in, since then I’ve been looking for ways to connect with people around me. Writing and learning new things expanded my friends’ circle. But the best way for me to connect with people is to be there for them when they need me. And to allow them to be vulnerable around me by allowing myself to be vulnerable around them. Of course, it’s still work in progress as I rarely allowed myself to be vulnerable. To share my fears or events from my past that profoundly impacted me.
I finally acknowledged that I need people, and I’m in the process of admitting that some people need me, that I can be useful, and that I can impact people at a deeper level the same way they can. That said, I know that the impact can be positive or negative, I am not perfect, so I’m going to try my best to maximise the positive impact and minimise the negative one.
So, whoever you are, if you need me at some point, I will do my best to be there for you. And more importantly, don’t feel like no one wants to hear about what you’re going through. Don’t feel like you aren’t important enough for people to stop and listen to you because they have their own problems and issues to deal with. It’s how I felt in the past, and I was wrong.
Be there for others, and write back.